Vicar's Letter

February 2012

Love is…

It is Valentines Day on 14th February. It is a day when love is centre stage and people express their feelings for one another. Red roses will be brought in their millions. For some it is a difficult day, perhaps because they are not in a relationship or because the love of their life has died.

Whatever our circumstances, when love is centre stage it is edifying and encouraging to turn to what the Bible has to say about it. A classic New Testament passage on love is in Paul’s first letter to the church in Corinth.

Paul writes one of the most lyrical and beautiful things in the Bible. It is a hymn of love and therefore perfect for this month.

Paul wrote these words to a church that was obsessed with some of the gifts that God had given it but had missed the foundation of the Christian life…love.

I want to draw out three truths from Paul’s words and encourage us to take them as a foundation for our lives and relationships:

  1. love is a necessity – because Paul’s words about love are so lyrical we could be mistaken for thinking that love is an abstract quality, hard to define and is just somehow there. Love is not simply a wispy, romantic or fragile feeling. For Paul, love is a real and concrete reality. For Paul love was most evident in the actions of Christ – coming into our world to be alongside us and to give his life for us.
    In our lives love should not be an ideal or purely the motivation for what we do. Love must be what we do and who we are. In our relationships we should do things out of love for one another. Seek actions that affirm our love for one another. This will bring to life for people the love that God has for them. In this way love is our necessity, our behaviour, our being. This is very Christ-like and therefore the way of life that is beyond compare.
  2. love is dynamic – Paul uses 15 verbs to describe the character of love. His description of love transcends his context and speaks to us today. This love is not self-seeking. Our culture can encourage us to focus on ourselves in the pursuit of happiness. In the Christian life finding happiness is not the highest goal or promise of faith. The highest goal is loving one’s neighbour. The love we are called to in our lives is both passive and active. It is patient (the passive part) and kind (the active part). A shorthand approach to this is to seek to give love and not to get it.
  3. love is permanent - the love Paul talks about lasts into eternity – it is indestructible because it is given by God through Christ. Things in life come and go and yet we can get obsessed with our needs the desires of the moment. This love is different. It builds us up and is permanent.

Relationships built on this understanding of love become an outward sign of the inner working of God’s grace. It is something we can see and experience that communicates the inner truth and beauty of God’s love.
 

Neil Warwick